Two years ago I never would have imagined myself as a stay-at-home mom. It’s something I’d always wanted to do, but I was a single mom from the time my first daughter was born until she was four years old. I had no choice but to find a 9-5 job so that I was able to provide for her. I was stuck in a cycle of making barely enough money to cover my bills, and the rest had to go to paying for daycare. I felt like I was missing out on time with my daughter just to pay for someone else to take care of her. I was making “too much” money to qualify for any type of assistance, so I pinched pennies as much as I could.
In January of 2017, I found out I was pregnant with my second child. Jacob moved from Alaska to Montana to help me until our daughter was born. My job gave me four months paid maternity leave (seriously unreal), and I used that time to crunch some numbers and figure out where we stood financially. I knew that if I returned to work, I would be paying upwards of $1,200 per month for daycare, and I would have pennies to bring home after the childcare tab was paid. Spending 40 hours or more a week away from my girls wasn’t an option for me, and we decided I would stay home with the kids and pursue other ideas I’d had in my head (this blog being one of them).
It’s now the middle of March 2018… My maternity leave ended the day after Christmas and I’ve been trying to figure out the stay-at-home mom thing ever since. Since being in Alaska, I’ve gained three stepkiddos to add to my daily routine. They’re all school age, so I chauffeur them to and from school every day. I’m still trying to get in the swing of things and develop a routine that works for us. I’ve always wanted to be one of those people that gets more sh*t done by 7 am than most people do in an entire day, but I’ve barely started that road (so if you’re that person, please throw your tips my way!).
One thing I’m proud of since getting here is that I’ve managed to have an empty laundry hamper 95% of the time AND all of our clothes are put away (instead of sitting on a chair in the corner of the bedroom for weeks…). We’re staying with relatives at the moment until we can buy land and build our home, so laundry and tidying up are the main focus as far as housework goes at the moment. I’m sure when the day comes and I have an entire house to keep clean, laundry won’t be tackled nearly as well as it is now.
I would love to wake up and really start my day with purpose instead of a general idea of what needs to be done. Commitment to a schedule or routine has never been something I excel at, so it’s one of my top priorities on my list of personal developments.
Are you a stay-at-home mom? Do you have a specific routine you follow? I’m interested in seeing how some of you more seasoned mamas handle day-to-day life! Leave a comment or visit my contact page and send me a message!